Tuesday, 11 April 2017

Changes?

There were so many things on-going in my head. I think and think and think but nothing seems to come out as an answer for me. How do I change myself so that I would finally stop getting hurt over small little things. 

Someone once told me this, "You seem to treasure your friendship a lot which I don't know if it's a good or bad thing. It's good that friends really mean some important value to you but i guess you become too over attached to the friendship? I hate to say this but he probably don't think you as his best friend." 

Let's be honest, I was kinda offended and upset when I first heard it but he was right. I felt like I was so needy over the friendship but obviously the other party doesn't think the same way as I did. Then I tried, I listened to his advice. "Don't go the extra mile ; You don't owe him anything ; Answer when that person needs help" I did not start the conversation first. I did not tried to contact that person in any way. And spot on, he did not notice anything nor did he notice I was not texting him anymore. Then I found myself in denial. I was never his best friend. It was all just me alone. After a good 2 weeks of just concentrating myself, he drop a text on one of my social media and I found myself having the urge to text him and talk to him about the issue but I remembered, if he needed me, if I was even important, if I was even a best friend, he would have texted me instead of dropping a text on my social media. 

Sometimes, you just need to let loose. Take a good 1 week break (at least) just to concentrate on yourself, your health, your mental health and your happiness. And you'll finally find the answer to the issue. The answer was obvious but you were just too caught up with everything about everyone that you have forgotten about yourself so you missed out a whole lot of things. It wasn't easy but I am proud to say that I found my own inner peace with the same old issue. 

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